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Meet Allison Kimmey, mom of two wonderful children. Once during a vacation with her family, Allison reminded her kids it was time to get out of the pool, her daughter got upset and suddenly said: `Our mom is fat`. After the unpleasant incident, Kimmey gave her children a parenting lesson.
When the family returned home, Allison called the kids for a serious talk. `The truth is, I`m not fat, - said Allison. – There are no fat people. But I do have fat. Everyone has it without exception. It protects our muscles and bones, our body gets energy from it`.
Then Allison emphasized: `Fat – that`s not an offensive word in our house`. And although the woman understands she can`t control what happens outside the home and what the kids hear at school, she decided that in their family, no one would call people fat to avoid hurting anyone.
Kimmey is convinced: `Parents` duty is to be the loudest, most confident, positive, and consistent voice in their children`s lives`. Allison Kimmey shared her story online and it quickly became popular, gathering over 32 thousand likes.
Source: Instagram
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When Allison Kimmey reminded the kids that playtime was over, her daughter got upset and told her brother that their mom is fat.
`Today my daughter called me fat. She was upset because I made them get out of the pool and in anger she told her brother that mom is fat. I had her come upstairs to talk.`
Me: `What did you just call me?`
Her: `I said you`re fat, mom. I`m sorry.`
Me: `Well, let`s talk. The thing is, I`m not fat. There are no fat people. But I do have fat. Everyone has fat. It protects our muscles and bones, our body gets energy from it. But do you have fat?`
Her: `Yes! Look, here on my tummy.`
Me: `Right. You have it. And your brother has it.`
My son: `I don`t have fat. I`m the skinniest. I even have muscles.`
Me: `Actually, every person in the world has fat. But we each have different amounts.`
My son: `Okay. I have a little fat that protects my big muscles. But you have more than me.`
Me: `Right. Some have a lot, some have a little. But that doesn`t mean one person is better than another. Do you understand?`
Them: `Yes, mom.`
Me: `Can you repeat my words?`
Them: `Yes! We shouldn`t call people fat because they`re not fat. But everyone has fat and it`s normal to have different amounts.`
Me: `Absolutely right.`
Them: `But can we go back to the pool?`
Me: `No.`
Every time similar topics come up, I have to choose how best to explain things to the kids. Fatness – that`s not an offensive word in our house. If I scold the kids for saying it, then I`ll let them think it`s an offensive word and they`ll grow up believing that being fat is unworthy and disgusting.
`I think she picked it up somewhere outside. The same idea can be presented to a child from different angles: at friends` houses where parents have different values, watching TV shows or movies, interacting at school when they discuss someone`s figure – it all settles in their heads. The main task for parents – to remain the loudest, most confident, positive, and be the guiding voice they hear.`
`Support me if this touched you! Ellie`
Parents really can`t control everything a child sees and hears, especially when they`re outside the home. However, wise moms and dads should instill in the little one guidelines and principles that help them interact with the outside world and always have their own opinion.
In my opinion, Allison Kimmey is a very smart woman. But how would you act in mom`s place in such a situation?
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