You got drunk

“One lady cried the whole time during the meeting and talked about how everyone considers her friend better than her.
She gradually got drunk and cried. I left her at her staircase, promised to definitely support her and fix everything, and made up something about her friend being a big fool. I drove home drunk and in a very bad state.” - Jānis

Why he will most likely run away: Because drunk people look and behave disgustingly, and you know that well yourself. You probably wouldn`t call a man who got drunk on a date either.

How to prevent it: Remember that alcohol is an unusually tricky thing. It`s understandable that you drink because you`re nervous and want to relax. But the problem is that alcohol doesn`t actually change your state, but complicates the existing one. This means that if you`re only nervous about the meeting, that`s normal: this state would pass on its own, drinks will speed up your return to the usual state. But if you`re very stressed and something has happened to you, you can`t fix anything with alcohol, but you`ll only harm yourself. Therefore, choose one: either cancel the meeting, or spend it in a cafe where they don`t sell alcohol.

You lied to him

“A lady came with large moles hanging on her face, which weren`t in the photo (praise Photoshop). Plus, in the photo she was about five years younger and about 15 kilograms lighter. The whole meeting she whined about her exes, talked about her love for children and desire to get married, then asked to take her devil knows where. I didn`t call anymore. She asked me a couple of times herself, I took her to the cinema out of inertia, but then stopped answering phone calls.” - Andris

Why he will most likely run away: No one likes being lied to. If a cheerful pensioner came to meet you instead of an imposing 40-year-old handsome man, a pimply teenager instead of a young student - how would you react? Exactly, you would run away.
How to prevent it: It`s important to understand that everyone has complexes. It`s also important to understand that there will definitely be a person who will like you as you are. Possibly, he won`t appear as quickly as you`d like, but there are advantages to that: if you show yourself natural instead of an artificial beauty, you`ll save yourself time and nerves. Everyone falls for an inflated beauty. Including those who are looking for a lady for one night.

Your appearance doesn`t match your words

“One lady constantly talked in correspondence about her travels around Europe, about attending fashion shows and how stupid her maid is. She came to the meeting in “brand” clothes bought at the market. Who was she trying to fool, I wonder?” - Aldis

Why he will most likely run away: Firstly, he might think you`re an empty person who compensates herself with empty chatter and fairy tales. Secondly, if you lie from the very beginning, you`ll lie later too.

How to prevent it: Even if you really want to embellish reality, don`t do it. Simply because it makes no sense. You`re just harming yourself for nothing. He`s unlikely to be interested in how much money you have – unless he`s a gigolo or a poor widower with five preschool children.

Your appearance doesn`t match the situation

“I once invited a woman to an expensive restaurant. We communicated online for a long time, I fell in love, wanted to surprise her. She came without makeup, in worn-out old sneakers and with a huge shabby bag. The whole evening I thought about how everyone was looking at us. Then I ordered cognac and started looking at beautiful women who were dressed appropriately. Of course, we didn`t meet again.“ - Kaspars

Why he will most likely run away: Firstly, he`ll decide that you don`t appreciate his efforts. Secondly, that you`re indifferent to his interests (for example, you came in high heels and a thin jacket, even though he invited you for a walk in the forest in winter.), thirdly, he`ll think you don`t know the concept of “looking appropriate”.

How to prevent it: Don`t be shy to ask again if you`re not sure you understood him correctly. You yourself won`t be comfortable, right? But if you think it`s nonsense, or that it`s an attack on your individuality or freedom, better to clarify before the date. And offer him an alternative option.