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How many times have women around the world wondered: “Why did he marry someone else and not me when everything was so good between us?”
At first glance it may seem that each such situation has its own cause and everything depends on the circumstances. But if you analyze many such cases several patterns emerge that affect a man`s decision to marry a girl or not.
Today we will talk about the reasons why men often date some girls but marry others. We will try to summarize how exactly a girl should behave so that everything goes according to the planned plan rather than collapsing at the most unexpected moment.
Continuation of the article
1. The problem is not in the girl but in the stage of life when the man met her.
Do not think that men are incapable of falling in love and experiencing serious feelings their thinking mechanism is completely different from that of a woman. Most often a man decides to marry not after a certain date with a girl but when he is ready to take responsibility for the family.
Thus relationships can be ideal but without marriage and vice versa there can be a lot of problems and disagreements in them but if a man has decided that at this stage of life he wants to start a family he will do it even with a woman who is not ideal in his understanding.
It happens that for various reasons a guy realizes that he can no longer be with the girl he likes more than others. For example she marries someone else or moves to another place of residence. Then he may decide that there is no point in delaying and most likely will choose the most suitable option.
2. Physical attraction alone is not enough
You may have perfect harmony in bed and passion arises from just a glance at each other but that does not mean that the man will decide to tie himself in family bonds specifically with you.
According to one study in which men were asked to describe their brides out of more than 3.5 thousand brides only 20% mentioned traits related to appearance while the remaining 80% talked about their beloved her character and respect.
Moreover a man may like a sexual girl but if she is too vulgar the probability that he will ask for her hand is very small. When a man chooses a life companion in all respects he evaluates whether he will be ashamed of her appearance or behavior in society.
3. Friends` opinions and even more so parents` views play an important role
Only in books and movies can men resist their parents` opinion to be with their beloved. In life a person does not rush to create unnecessary questions for himself by choosing a girl towards whom his relatives and acquaintances do not have the best attitude.
No matter how much he loves the woman he will always be pointed out about her `flaws`. Friends may even laugh but we know how important status and respect are to men.
Therefore if a girl is not liked by the guy`s surroundings with 50% confidence it can be said that the relationship will not reach the registry office.
4. You need to tell a man everything directly. Remember that hints do not work.
A woman who wants to get married but does not tell her partner about it may never wait for what she wants because until he receives a message about some problem the man will not start acting to solve it.
But if the beloved leaves the man without waiting for a marriage proposal he will learn a lesson and will offer his hand and heart to the next chosen one earlier for fear that she might also leave.
Therefore the conclusion is one - it is better to tell a man everything directly. It is not only about marriage but also about life situations. By making hints the woman continues to be angry with the man if he has not understood these hints and has not done what she wanted.
5. Living together reduces the chance of formalizing the relationship by 2 times
There is ordinary statistics according to which a man most often asks for his chosen one`s hand within 20-22 months after the start of the relationship that is before the second anniversary of the relationship. With the onset of this period the probability of marriage decreases to 80% and by the third anniversary it is only 50%. If people have been dating for 7 or more years then most likely there is no point in waiting for the wedding anymore.
Moreover no one will endure 7 or even 2-3 years before starting to live together with their beloved. That is the more stable and calm the relationship and the more it resembles real family life the less likely it is that the man will feel the need to register it. Everything is fine for him but the stamp in the passport can change something for the worse.
That is why you need to either artificially create the need to get married without starting cohabitation with your partner until that moment or do it risking knowing that the relationship will end in nothing.
6. Women who support a man on the way to success are no longer needed when he reaches the top
Yes yes the cruel truth about the fate of caring nannies who supported and protected the man until he reached the top and after achieving it ended up overboard.
This is not a classic case many men have tried to support their companions. But there is also such a woman who volunteers as a helper so that her beloved can not be distracted from his main goal - career money and high position in society.
However having achieved it the man begins to feel more confident and realizes that he can finally afford to take care of his dream girl. But Cinderella suddenly finds out that the man has no feelings for her he simply accepted what she provided to him on her own initiative.
Moreover a woman who is satisfied with everything and whose paradise is the same tent with her beloved does not inspire the man to conquer new heights. But when he tastes success he does not want to stop anymore so it turns out that someone needs to make him strive upward rather than pull him into a warm comfortable swamp without any development.
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