1. Parents Unconsciously Influence Partner Choice

Psychologists claim that people unconsciously seek partners who are similar to their parents. Women choose husbands indistinguishable from their fathers, and men spend their lives unconsciously looking for their mothers. This applies only to those whose parents were not role models.

It was previously thought that we would prefer an opposite-sex partner who is as caring and kind as our father or mother. However, the opposite is true: dysfunctional parents (alcoholics, cruel, or those who abandoned the family) force their children to choose partners with exactly the same problems.

There is no logic in such a choice; it works unconsciously: it just wants to heal childhood wounds. People who interact with problematic partners unconsciously try to free themselves from their childhood resentments. However, such relationships can be destructive and in no way protect against any traumas.

2. Marriage Has Nothing to Do with Happiness

According to surveys, newlyweds are much happier than single people. True, their happiness lasts only briefly due to the honeymoon effect. Shortly before the wedding and one to three years after, they are ecstatic. But after that, the satisfaction level of newlyweds inevitably decreases, and they can be compared to those who decided to live on their own.

Scientists concluded that optimists feel good both in marriage and outside of it. But for individuals prone to depression, marriage will not help get rid of problems. Moreover, some studies report that singles with reliable support – friends and family – are just as happy as family people.

3. Womens Friendship Is Just the Result of Active Hormone Activity

In any incomprehensible or alarming situation, adrenaline is released into mens blood, provoking a ”fight or flight” reaction. With women, its completely different: their glands start producing the hormone oxytocin, which makes them protect offspring and gather in groups for defense.

Therefore, when girls feel bad, they first call their mom or girlfriend. And in this regard, partly, lies the secret of womens longevity. Men traditionally keep emotions to themselves, which leads to heart diseases. Women, by sharing with their girlfriends, ”let off steam” and ultimately feel better.

4. Most Children at Certain Moments Hate Their Parents (And It Doesnt Matter How Well You Raise Them)

Psychologists call this ”adolescent allergy to parents.” On one hand, the child already feels grown-up and independent, but on the other, is very attached to the parents. An internal conflict arises, and the child starts behaving as if they hate their father and mother. Moreover, boys choose to withdraw (avoid kisses and hugs), while girls express complaints directly and try to hurt.

But if the ”allergy to parents” follows people who have outgrown adolescence, its already a big problem. Moreover, the older generation is not to blame for its occurrence, but the adult child themselves. Psychologists claim that mother and father are responsible for upbringing, but not for what their offspring has become as an adult.

5. Any Woman with Money Can Look Like a Star

Movie stars and glamour magazines teach us unrealistic beauty ideals. Trying to be like stars, ordinary people leave about 400 billion dollars in stores and beauty salons every year. But without a couple of million dollars in your pocket, this ideal is almost impossible.

On average, a statistical woman spends 15 thousand dollars on herself over a lifetime, but, for example, ”Friends” star Jennifer Aniston - $145 thousand a year. Diets, cosmetics, and other procedures wont bring you closer to the desired image because the celebrities you want to resemble are several times richer than you.

6. Women Who Wait Their Whole Life for a Prince Suffer from a Dangerous Syndrome

Cinderella syndrome is a thinking disorder that is mainly in women but also occurs in men. If such a deviation exists, it seems to the person that their whole life is full of torments: not respected at work, friends dont appreciate, the whole world is against them. However, Cinderella doesnt suffer the disappointments of fate and believes that all torments will be rewarded.

The classic syndrome picture looks like this: a person lives, waiting for a wonderful prince or millionaire uncle somewhere in the world who will solve their problems with one wave of the hand. Other typical Cinderella variants seem ridiculous.

According to some versions, Cinderella syndrome occurs in people who are panicky afraid of success and need the approval and support of those around them. Its dangerous for women because it pushes them into the hands of abusive men.

7. Childbirth Changes a Womans Life for the Worse

Doctors observe positive changes that make a woman almost psychic: for example, after childbirth, women perceive the feelings of those around them. But the sad consequences are much greater: post-traumatic stress disorder, which can appear even after a few years, and also excess weight, hip volume, and others.

There are also more exotic changes: for example, an increase in foot size due to loss of ligament elasticity and tooth loss. The more children a woman gives birth to, the more teeth she loses. Scientists have calculated that women aged 35-49 with 1 child lose an average of 2 teeth a couple of years after childbirth.

8. Love Is Not Eternal

According to neurobiologists, love can be explained by a hormone cocktail. A mixture of estrogen, testosterone, dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin explains both ”butterflies in the stomach” and sleepless nights. But you cant last long on chemistry alone: over time, hormone concentration drops, and the couple discovers that love has evaporated.

Psychologists say that to preserve feelings, youll have to work: go on dates (even if youve lived together for 15 years), share news, and hug each other more.

9. Your Partner Wont Appreciate Your Loyalty and Devotion

Scientists calculated that those born between 1981 and 2000 get married much later than their parents did. This is because people have finally appreciated their personal space, and a woman at 25 is not considered an old maid. But when meeting ”the one,” we try to spend all our time with them and make a terrible mistake.
Psychologists claim that a partner usually doesnt appreciate sacrifices. On the contrary - independence attracts the opposite sex more than exclusive loyalty.

Have you encountered people who suffer from ”Cinderella syndrome” or feel resentful towards their parents?